Many people fail to succeed after many blind dates. Either they don't like the other person, or they fall in love with the other person, but the other person has no feelings for them. Therefore, many boys desperately look for strategies before going on a blind date, hoping to increase the success rate of the blind date. So how can blind date chatting be more successful?
1. Avoid question-and-answer conversations
Question-and-answer conversations are easy for boys. Very annoying way for girls to chat.
For example: Boys: "Do you like watching movies?" Girls: "No."
If a girl doesn't want to chat with you, she will chat with you. Death makes it impossible for you to continue. In this way, you won't be able to learn more, and the scene will slowly cool down.
Therefore, when chatting, we should ask open-ended questions to help expand the topic. For example: "What kind of movies do you like to watch?" "Which movie do you like?" After the girl answers, you can continue the conversation.
2. Reduce rational thinking and use more emotional expression
For some boys who are not very good at interacting , chatting is a very painful thing, not only for yourself, but also for the other party. This type of boys are used to expressing themselves with rational thinking when chatting, so their speech will be very straightforward and they will say whatever comes to mind.
But when girls chat, they will be more emotional. So when two people chat, they are often not on the same frequency. The solution is to exercise more perceptual thinking and learn perceptual expression methods, such as open-ended questions and answers, sense of humor, storytelling, etc.
3. Downplay the purpose of blind dates
Many people go on blind dates just to get married. They have a strong utilitarianism when chatting, which puts a lot of pressure on girls. If you want to communicate smoothly with a girl on a blind date, you should treat her as a friend you met for the first time, rather than your future partner.
Don’t talk about how many children you will have in the future, or whether to buy a house or not, such serious and realistic issues. Although there is nothing wrong with it, it is not suitable for chatting during the first meeting.
We should not think about settling life-long affairs in just one meeting. Relationships need to be cultivated. If you don’t have a good impression at the beginning, who will be willing to marry you?
4. Chat topics
We can talk about many topics with our friends, such as our previous experiences, childhood fun, hobbies, and topics that the other party is interested in. wait. When chatting, listen more, learn to dig out topics from the other person's words, and guide the other person to talk more about their own situation.
In fact, the content of the chat will not affect the outcome of the blind date. The key point lies in whether a comfortable atmosphere and feeling are created during the process, and whether the girl is given the best time during the blind date.Leave a good impression on students. Therefore, when chatting, you must pay attention to the lively atmosphere and emotional communication and interaction.
