Question: Can anyone help me analyze this? I met a girl on a blind date and rented a house with my friends. After chatting for a few days, I asked her to invite her to dinner and meet to chat. Later, when I got to her house downstairs, she asked her again. She told me that her roommate (who we share a house with) is also going together. Then she asked me to wait downstairs for a while (she said her roommate was doing laundry and asked me to wait). Then I waited downstairs for more than an hour.
I didn’t go downstairs until after 12 o’clock. Then while eating, she and her roommate kept chatting and playing on their mobile phones in their hometown dialect. I couldn’t understand and couldn’t get in the conversation. I basically didn’t have much conversation with her. sentence. After dinner, she went to sit at a candy shop for a while, then went shopping for a while, and then finished dinner. Her roommate was there the whole time.
Two days later (just last night), she took the initiative to contact me for the first time (I used to contact her) to ask me to borrow money and said she wanted to borrow 1,600 to pay the rent because she recently resigned. , it was just time to pay the rent, and she asked me to help her find a job and pay me back after her salary was paid.
I don’t quite understand her behavior. First of all, she and I just met, and it’s exactly what two people need to understand each other. At that time, when she went out to play for the first time, she brought a roommate with her. Then she kept chatting with her roommate and played on her mobile phone without paying much attention to me. Secondly, she, a person who has worked for four or five years, doesn’t even have more than 1,000 yuan in savings, and she borrowed money from a blind date she just met? Is this normal?
But some people say that borrowing money from a blind date you just met may be a test. If you don’t borrow it, you will definitely be out of luck, and 1,600 is not too much. Should I borrow this money?
Is it a temptation for a blind date to borrow money?
Answer: I don’t know if a girl on a blind date is trying to borrow money as a test. I only know that she obviously treats you like a fool and wants to find someone to help her pay the rent. Maybe after you pay her the rent, she He might even become cold immediately. Who introduced you to this top performer? Go and discuss it with the introducer.
It may be normal for her to be short of money. After all, many girls nowadays consume ahead of schedule. No matter how much their income is, they use it first. But regardless of whether she really lacked the 1,600 yuan for rent, it was abnormal for her to borrow money from an unfamiliar blind date. Also, it's normal for her to check her phone occasionally during your date. It would be rude if she does it all the time.
As for bringing roommates, I understand, because some people were molested and raped because they went on a date with a blind date, so bringing roommates will make you feel safe. Just a little. But she and her roommate keep chatting in their native dialect, and you don’t understand and can’t interrupt. This also seems very disrespectful to you.
If you feel that you are not satisfied with the person you are dating, then you don’t have to borrow it. Although the money is not much, it is good to lose less. But if you are satisfied with the girl you are dating and want to continue to contact her, whether she is really short of money or testing you, thenI just borrowed it because I didn't intend to take it back.
