Many people think that the relationship after getting back together is like a broken mirror. Even if it is glued together, there will be cracks and they will break up again. But this is not the case. In many cases, as long as you know how to heat up the relationship, even if it is The relationship after getting back together can be reconciled as before, or even closer than before the breakup. So what should we do to warm up the relationship after getting back together?
1. Ignore the "cracks" in the original relationship
< p> First of all, if you choose to ignore this rift, please carefully recall the reason why the two people separated in the first place.After all, the brief reunion at this time cannot explain whether the two people "forgive" or "forget it" about each other.
Find the core trigger and make it clear that, except in extreme circumstances, both men and women must be responsible for breaking up.
But no matter who is responsible, if the fundamental problems that caused the two people to separate after the reunion are not solved, the relationship after the reunion will not only be cold, but also shaky.
Therefore, we must not only make corrections consciously, but also improve the previous way of getting along, communicate with each other in a timely manner, and find a way to solve the problem together.
2. Make up for the "cracks" in the original relationship
If you choose to find ways to make up for it, you must pay attention to the principles Bottom line question.
Many boys, when they first get back together, are afraid that the girl will break up with them again, so they attribute all the mistakes to themselves.
That’s it, agree to all the girl’s conditions.
But in fact, not only will doing this not make the other party change his mind, but also produce feelings of sympathy, reluctance, etc., on the contrary, under the influence of the slippery slope effect in psychology, he will repeatedly lower his bottom line and sink deeper and deeper.
Blindly pleasing each other becomes a habit, and in the end it is easy to break the principle of balance in male-female interactions.
And then was abandoned by the other half and became the injured one.
Relationships are a matter between two people. I can accommodate your little temper, but you shouldn’t get angry at me. Both parties should think more about each other.
3. Both parties reach a consensus
In the relationship after getting back together, we can take the initiative to propose this to girls A consensus is:
No matter how much you quarrel in the future, don’t talk about breaking up. The two parties agree not to break up easily. This is the main premise.
Then we can add a little fun to it, such as love cards.
Like a forgiveness card, you can forgive anything as long as it is not a principled mistake;
The Frankness Card, you have to answer truthfully whatever I ask you;
There are also the No-Apology Card when it comes to quarreling, the No-Apology Card when you make a mistake, etc.
It can be a physical object, or it can be recorded in a mobile phone memo, in the form of a baton, and each person makes a request once, which is fair and just.
Specific restrictions can also be made on timeliness, application scenarios, etc. Friends who have never experienced breakup and reconciliation, but whose relationship is dull can also try it.
When relationships fall into dullness, in the final analysis it is still a matter of communication. These little methods are actually just a little game.
As long as both men and women cooperate with each other and tacitly abide by the rules, the dull relationship can slowly heat up.
You can even increase your intimacy with each other by making promises and fulfilling them, making the relationship between the two of you more and more stable.
In fact, the relationship between men and women is like this. It needs some small rules and methods to enhance the relationship. After all, relationships are maintained, not just created out of thin air by doing nothing.
Love is the same, pursuit is the same, and this "enhancing agent" cannot be missing. When we use it in our relationships, the relationship between two people will gradually progress unconsciously. There is no such thing as a bad relationship or a person that can't be pursued.
